It's my 20th birthday today. And my twenties are going to be my selfish years.
Not out of spite/resentment, but as a form of self-affirmation.
The way I see it, these few years ahead are crucial. They are mine to mould, craft and shape in whatever direction I see fit. Personally and professionally. To choose me before others. Unapologetically. To use what I've previously learnt, through trials and tribulations of my teenage self, and manipulate those lessons to drive me forward. To not look at a mistake and see failure but to recognise the opportunity for growth and improvement. To live and let live.
To choose me before others, again.
Unapologetically. Honestly. Sympathetically.
I'm learning to follow my own intuition, and two decades later the greatest lesson I've learnt from the path I've walked is the importance of self-care. To selfishly put myself first. And to own the confidence/apprehension/vulnerability that accompanies it.
The sweetest blessing I can/will embrace in simply my being. Right in this very moment.
Here's to honouring my youth. Embracing the journey. And becoming the woman I know and can be.
Faye x
Culture Eighteen. 
Great post! I turned 20 too this year. 🙂
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I really like this post and I think in some circumstances it’s ok to put yourself first. It’s your life and your happiness matters
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Thank you, I appreciate it! And definitely agree with this, now feels like the time to focus on self!
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Happy very belated birthday! 🙂
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Thank you 🙂
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You’re welcome! 🙂
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Welcome to your twenties! Finding who you really are and taking risks is exactly what you should be doing 🙂 great post, I’m 24 and have realised I should be doing more of it!! X
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Haha thank you, I look forward to what these years have to bring! It’s now or never right? 😆 xo
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Lots of things Im sure 😊😊 haha yup too true! X
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Hey. I turned 20 few months ago and that’s why I started my blog. I felt so connected while reading your post! Happy and successful twenties to you!
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Hey!! Welcome to the 20s club! Thank you, I’m glad you did feel that way, I often try to write in a way which resonates with others. Sometimes it does, like with yourself. Other times it doesn’t (and that’s fine too)! Thank you very much! Same to you x
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I love this tbhly, im turning 20 in a few months and I’m pretty sure I wanna do the same thing for the next few years – look after and improve myself as much as I can. I wanna take the time to put myself first and really invest in self care! It’s so important, I’m really realising that lately. Good luck adulting haha I hope it all goes well!
Xx
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Thank you!! And tbh it’s the right way to go about things, time to invest in ourselves. Haha thanks, and you too 😆 xx
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As someone who is soon exiting her twenties, you have the right idea. This is the time to live unapologetically and find yourself; I am so excited for you. ♥
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Aw thank you! I’m also looking forward to what these years hold! (Also I’m sure your 30’s would proceed as your 20s, so you’ll do just a fine) xo
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Happy birthday, lovely lady! 🙊 It’s my twentieth birthday in a couple of weeks too, and I plan on living by this whole notion as well! Here’s to our 20’s.. 🖤
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Thank you!! Haha yes, it’s the best way forward xo
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happy birthday! i’ll be turning 20 soon too and I couldn’t agree with this more! ❤ x
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Aw thank you! And a happy early birthday to you xo
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Belated Happy Birthday Faye. Keep on writing 😃
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Thank you very much!
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Happy birthday! We were born almost on the same day (mine’s the 8th) but in different years. I agree that you should absolutely be ‘selfish’ in your twenties!! So far I’ve spent a year in New York, travelled around the US and Europe, danced in a contemporary youth company, and made friends all over the world. Your twenties are awesome!!
Kathrin — http://mycupofenglishtea.wordpress.com
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Thank you! Oh wow, that sounds amazing! I’m glad you’re making the most of these years!
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Happy birthday! ^^
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Thank youu 🙂
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You’re not wrong, that’s EXACTLY what your twenties are all about. Good for you for working it out at the beginning! 👍🏻
Kirsty
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Thank you so much! 20 but still clueless and I’m okay with that (for now)!
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Reblogged this on TizzyMatic.
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Wow, thank you for reblogging!
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No problem. Gotta spread the message when the message deserves to be spread, ya know.
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Once again, thank you. Appreciate that 🙂
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Happy birthday!! Great personal message to spread to others, too. Something others might need to hear if they’re dealing with self-care issues.
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Thanks I appreciate that! And ofc, putting your own needs/happiness first is important
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You’re welcome. You’re right and I hope ya bday is going great!
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It went well thank you!!
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Happy birthday/belated birthday? But Happy 20th birthday! I have to say that you are completely right in putting yourself first in these next coming years. You need to figure out who you are, what you want, and who genuinely cares about you! I’m super excited to see what you do throughout the next few years. I expect huge things from you xxx
Melina | http://www.ivefoundwaldo.com
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Thank you! (Still my bday for the next 2 hours). It only seems fit and now in my 20s seems like the right time to focus on myself, as I’m sure others should too. That’s so (so) kind thank you so much!! xxx
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Happy birthday!🎉🎈
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Thank you!!
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Happy Birthday Faye. Hope you get everything you wish for 🙂
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Thank you so much 🙂
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